Setting boundaries on your behaviors
During the transition process, you will probably experience new kinds of
relationships with deeper honesty and greater intimacy. You will also be facing
pain from the past and present. These can make you extremely vulnerable to
dangerous behaviors. Because the sexualized emotional longings are so intense,
or because a behavioral pattern of sexual abuse has become deeply entrenched,
very powerful sexual addictions can overpower you. Furthermore, your life can be
endangered by escape addictions, depression, or suicidal thoughts.
It is essential that you set definite boundaries for yourself and others as
you participate in conferences, firesides, and group meetings. The following are
policies for all Evergreen-sponsored events.
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No sexual
relations with other participants. Absolutely none. Sexual activity among
group participants destroys the effectiveness of the group and jeopardizes the
progress of the participants.
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Maintain the
confidentiality of fellow participants.
Click here for more information on confidentiality. Be a support to other participants. Do not
be judgmental or critical of others' situations. Remember that they, like you,
are struggling through difficult circumstances.
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Share your
feelings and experiences with participants but avoid sharing graphic details
about sexual activities. Also avoid disclosing locations where sex,
pornography, or "cruising" are available.
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Be wise in
your activities with other participants outside of group meetings. Don't plan
or take part in activities with other participants that cause you to be
sexually vulnerable or arouse homosexual feelings. Behave at all times with
other participants as if they were heterosexual friends. Don't spend excessive
time with other participants, and work to develop relationships with others of
your own gender who are heterosexual.
Read more about setting boundaries
on your behaviors.
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